Normal?

I had an interesting discussion about the use of language with a group the other day and it got me thinking. We were discussing the importance/unimportance of living a normal life. It became quickly apparent that the word 'normal' seems to have different meanings. If a doctor says it to you you're probably pleased, if you describe your situation as normal you may mean that it's a bit routine and boring, or that you're finally recovering from some kind of trauma.  When we're teenagers we just want to 'be normal' meaning we want to fit in with others and develop breasts and chest hair (preferably not both!) at the same rate, yet equally we rally against the normality of our parents and teachers.  Some gurus out there advise us to 'be anything but normal - be extraordinary'.  We may feel embarrased if we're in some way connected with someone who's 'not normal'.    

So is it good or bad to be normal, or is it both or neither?

My dictionary defines normal as 'conforming to what is standard or usual'.  So I guess normal could be seen as good, bad or indifferent depending on your viewpoint.  Is what is normal to you, normal to others?  We're all guilty of making assumptions that what we find normal, others will too.  When you interact with others, how willing are you to accept that their version of normal may be vastly different from yours?

Normal can be used to mean anything from boring, everyday and ordinary to sane, healthy and like others.  Depending on our definition of normal we may rally against it, or be glad to experience it.  As coaches, teachers and parents it may be useful to recognise that some people long to be normal, while others long to be anything but.  Start with yourself; what does the word normal mean to you? How much do you want to lead a normal life, be normal and do normal things?  How you feel about this will impact on how you judge others.  Wouldn't it be nice if we could all just accept that ok just the way we are? 

Anais Nin said that 'we don't see things as they are, we see them as we are'.  We take in the world through our five senses and use our mind, spirit, thoughts and intuition to filter this vast wealth of information. Be mindful of this as you interact with others because the person it most affects is you. If you're the kind of person that can't understand why anyone would want to keep jetting off to do dangerous things, see if you can respect that their idea of normal is different to yours.  Equally, if you love new experiences, accept that some people love and are thankful for the routines of their 'normal' lives. 

Life would be great if we could all accept each other!

With love, Lisa xx